So I got the Jeep back yesterday all back to normal, final total was $8300 for all the repairs, had to have the axle housing, both left and right ball joints, caliper, rotor, splash shield (which is rubbing as I drive), and the suspension hub assembly. they also replaced the wheel but didn't go into why, it looked like the spacer just simply failed, so the brief view I got of the wheel when it happened it all looked OK to me.
There are two interesting things though,
OC Motorsports split my deductable with me so it only ended up costing me $250, don't know if they did that because they didn't check the spacers when they had the wheel off when they installed my AEV lift a few weeks prior or not.
I "Think" that this may possibly be written up about it in some magazine, when I picked it up yesterday my SA mentioned that a magazine editor stopped by and was talking to them about it and took some pictures and what not, he stressed to him that they could not mention the shop or anything else, they were busy so I didn't get any more details about it from him. I do know that there are several magazine's based out of Costa Mesa, I'll try to figure out who it might be and keep an eye out for any sort of write up, I would imagine it would be about the dangers of using spacers.
Now to take it offroad on some trails this weekend and test the repairs, AND MY NEW LIFT! been wanting to run this one https://www.alltrails.com/trail/us/california/pioneertown-to-big-bear-ohv-route so depending on weather I might just go